Standing For What’s Right, Not What’s Popular

We have come to the end of season 4 of The Real Housewives of Dallas (RHOD) and I can’t say that I’m sad to see it finally over the horizon. If Andy himself had given me the heads up about what to expect this past season, I wouldn’t have believed him. See all that transpired on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills last season. LOL.

Here we go…

Ever since the midseason trailer dropped around the end of October last year, the RHOD fanbase has been up in arms, with their virtual pitchforks, ready to burn LeeAnne at the stake for saying “chirpy Mexican” in relation to Kary (the replacement). As I expressed at the time, there was nothing racist about what she said and on that I never wavered. I pointed out on my social media that LeeAnne’s comments were inappropriate and the tone was offensive but what they weren’t, was racist.

“There had to be more to what was said,”  I mumbled to myself. As the weeks went on, it was made clear (at least to me).

The women went to Thailand for their cast trip and all seemed to be going well at first until LeeAnne had the sensibilities to remind Kary that she should take her hat off as they were a foot way from entering the temple. This led Kary to make comments that were extremely elitist and rude comments; that LeeAnne had never traveled outside the US before and she has, so LeeAnne shouldn’t tell her what to do. Like, how can you be mad at someone reminding you to take your hat off before you enter a temple, in someone else’s country? It doesn’t make sense. That just made her seem like those snobby tourists who visit developing countries and treat locals badly. If you go back to my first blog of the season, you’ll recall me saying that I hope Kary’s purpose isn’t just to go after LeeAnne. It was evident, her goal, was to have a go at LeeAnne for everything.

They had a dinner and D’Andrasomeone I did love when she joined in season 2, decided it would be funny if she wore LeeAnne‘s dress, L’Infinity by LeeAnne LockenWhy would it be funny to mock someone’s business though, someone you claimed to have wanted to repair a friendship? She and Kary spent a good while laughing at dress in the hotel room then again at the dinner table. The women weren’t really laughing, so they kept going and going like the damn energizer bunny. Even Brandi had to step in and defend LeeAnne in that moment. Probably the most genuine thing she’s ever done for herI was shocked! LeeAnne walked off and didn’t give them the reaction they expect at the table. Kary of course didn’t like that she was called out by everyone, except for D’Andra, and went on to say LeeAnne loved playing the victim. There was no winning for her LeeAnne. If you’re honest, you’ll admit that up until that point LeeAnne had done nothing to this woman. NONE. But all we’ve seen from Kary (when she wasn’t complaining about money) was her using every opportunity to question LeeAnne about everything. 90% of the time, not really wanting an explanation or to listen, just to find another thing to have a go at her for. 

It was here that we heard LeeAnne say to Stephanie, after expressing that Kary kept coming for her sideways, that since Kary‘s so bold, she should do it to her face. This prompted the “come Mexican, I thought you were Mexican and strong…” while she pounded at her chest. I felt badly watching it as I knew I would’ve but understood the frustration. Kary had been goading her all season and she finally snapped. Some may not agree but this bit isn’t an opinion, it’s what happened. Social media lit up. The anger and hatred toward LeeAnne grew. Hardly anyone was willing to listen to what I had to say. I wasn’t anti-LeeAnne so I must’ve agreed with what was said, right? Wrong! I’ve said since the onset that her comments were not appropriate and that people could use whatever verbiage they wanted to describe it, but leave racism out of the dialogue. Attacks came from all over. I was getting beat up on social media and when that wasn’t enough, people took to my blog.

I hope your dignity is intact”, “You must be racist, too”, “You’re so f&@#ing stupid”, “I bet you don’t like Jews, either” were some of the things said to me. If I was a frail little man, I’d have crumbled. I could only imagine the things said to LeeAnne. I was firm in position because I knew what I had said and what my argument was. For those who wanted to have a discussion, I explained to them the reasons why LeeAnne’s comment cannot be seen as racist because not only is Mexican not a race (it’s a nationality like American is) but anyone from any race can be Mexican. That still didn’t seem to sit well with people because to them I was defending what LeeAnne had said. Still, they couldn’t provide any proof of me doing so. Some said I was focusing on semantics and that it was still offensive and I shouldn’t tell Latin/Hispanic people (any race can be either as this is someone’s ethnicity) that they shouldn’t be. Again, I didn’t. My only contention was having people use the proper terminologies.

The other comment LeeAnne made was after the women went to a ladyboy and ping pong show in the red light district (suggested by Stephanie’s husband). LeeAnne was very vocal about not wanting to go because the area was a bit seedy to her but made the decision to go, so she wouldn’t be seen as a drip. Kary commented that she was from Mexico so she knows what danger was (reinforcing the stereotype that Mexico is a bad place, but no one seems to care about that). Later, LeeAnne was shouting at Kameron (aggression misdirected) that they saw so many sex workers and that she didn’t want to go but (here comes the comment) “the little chirpy Mexican had to have her way.” This was the context of the what she said. Again, this came off offensive and I get anyone being offended as they should be, but it wasn’t racist. LeeAnne’s issue was never that Kary is Mexican (nothing is wrong with that) but that she was annoyed by her constant provocation and was at her limit. Does that make it okay? Of course not! This LeeAnne knows and it’s something many have expressed.

In the finale and like a lot of people usually do, she tried to explain herself at first then she apologized to Kary. Due to how strong cancel culture has become, no one was willing to listen to the apology in the finale, which was filmed around May of 2019. “She can’t be that ignorant, she has to be racist,” Kary said. LeeAnne had also apologized on social media, then she posted a statement as well as on the filmed reunion which finished airing a week ago. Fans (some) would not let up, that wasn’t until a video surfaced of Brandi from about 3 years ago, squinting her eyes, using a stereotypical Southeastern Asian accent. People were outraged and rightfully so. Unlike what LeeAnne did, Brandi (at first) said she would do it again because she likes doing impersonations and thought it as funny. She then offered an apology about 2 ~ 3 days later after NBC wrote about it. Colour me surprised (not really) that this video popped up and that she saw nothing wrong it. 

On the show Brandi refused to answer the question of whether or not she thought LeeAnne was racist but at the reunion, she started “tearing up” that she has Latin/Hispanic family members and for LeeAnne to say what she did was racism. It wasn’t. She even got up and took out a chair to single LeeAnne out. I can’t. Stephanie changed her tune from what she said on the show, to she now thought LeeAnne’s comments were racist. Kameron was the only one who stuck to her guns about what she thought. Of course, Kary would say LeeAnne was racist but for D’Andra to say she absolutely believed LeeAnne was a racist had me boggled. The same LeeAnne who was her maid of honor in her wedding, who was friends with her for years. What does that say about D’andra?

It didn’t take long to even point out the hypocrisy from fans and the women as they’ve all (except Kam) been so vocal about what LeeAnne did but have been doubling down and are now saying people should leave Brandi alone because the video was 3 years ago and that she wasn’t being mean where as LeeAnne was. That she was making fun of her own eyes because cast members have said her eyes are small. That may be true of herself but if her cast members told her she had squinty Asian eyes, that is a racist stereotype used to bully the Asians who do have it and they need to check themselves. The two are different. LeeAnne‘s offense was targeted at one person, a white Latina whereas Brandi‘s was aimed at an entire race. Also, Brandi did not apologize 3 years ago because no one saw it, except for one person.

It’s funny how those who wanted me to call LeeAnne a racist, have gone silent about Brandi. Unsurprisingly, majority were defending her, no one from the cast (except a now deleted post from Kameron, possibly by producer’s request) have come out to admonish Brandi like they did to LeeAnne. Many have even blamed a video Brandi made on her own and posted to her Instagram on LeeAnne. They’re asking why is the video coming out now? Why try to hurt Brandi? Instead of asking, why was it done ever at all? Even the most genuine and real housewife (as a lot of fans claim), Stephanie, hasn’t. Maybe she also thought it was funny as she finds it hard to actually say Brandis video used a racist stereotype. But the one leading majority of the negativity on the reunion, who came out on his late night talk show to call what LeeAnne did vile and disgusting, has yet to say anything about Brandi’s video. No word from Kary nor D’Andra yet they wasted no shortage of time to publicly label LeeAnne as a racist.

I haven’t and will not label LeeAnne a racist and I will not do the same to Brandi. If anyone cared about the lives of these women and what they did before the show, they’d (hopefully) not be so quick to throw out labels and call for people to be cancelled. To err is human, though some mistakes are grander than others, we should give people a chance to show they’ve grown from the lapse in judgment. It’s also not lost on me that this cast and Andy sat in a room with majority of the same producers, to discuss racism amongst themselves. The tone deafness of it all.

See you next season…if there is one.

The Real Housewives of Dallas aired Wednesdays at 9pm on Bravo.







Chirpy Mexican Is Not A Racial Slur

Hey all. I know I said I was going to start blogging about The Real Housewives of Dallas this season but I honestly felt demotivated. I still watch the episodes but I’d be typing the same thing every week and I wasn’t going to do that. All that has happened is LeeAnne getting ready for her wedding, Stephanie and Kameron going at it about their friendship, D’Andra is still complaining about the company and her mother, Brandi is still hating on LeeAnne and Kary has no other storyline than critiquing everything LeeAnne says or does. Oh! And Cary Deuber has popped up to help LeeAnne with her events for the wedding. That’s it. That’s all. Every week! Anyways…

The Real Housewives of Dallas just released its midseason trailer and it has already caused many discussions among the fan base.

The trailer seems to be well edited to be extremely dramatic and we see Kameron is in the thick of it. Brandi reveals to Stephanie that her son’s biological mother is pregnant again and she does know if she’ll be able to adopt another baby. Kary’s mission to make LeeAnne the villain for season 4, as every other person besides Kameron has done, is obviously going to be all she brings to the show. We see her trying to pit Kameron against LeeAnne. Will she succeed? We’ll see.

If we recall last season D’Andra was exposed at the reunion for complaining to Kameron about showing up to the women’s events to support them, while she supposedly doesn’t get the same support. So for D’Andra to have felt that slighted by the women then to purchase LeeAnne‘s multifunctional dress as a means of mocking her, she truly shows who she is. No matter what has transpired, I don’t recall ever seeing LeeAnne talk down anyone’s business. If she has, direct me to the clip. LeeAnne is seen expressing her frustrations to Kameron about Kary. This leads her to say

“but the little chirpy Mexican…”

Kameron decides to take it back to the group. All of this I assume took place in Thailand for the cast trip. This of course blew up and even Kameron’s husband commented (after they got back home) that the group can’t tolerate RACISM. Now this is where I lost it. Then to go on Twitter and seeing people agree, has me boggled.

I noticed that before the season started, media that reports on the housewives and fans, started talking about “finally a Latina is on a housewives show to bring diversity” (completely ignoring the fact that Joyce was on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and we had majority Latinas on The Real Housewives of Miami) which I thought was funny considering The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills just casted their first black wife. Anywho, Kary is 100% Latina, a WHITE Latina. They exist but guess what??? If she had no accent, we wouldn’t have known that.

Side bar: I had a brief discussion with some twitter users a few months back about the Latinx community. A news station revealed their journalists who would be covering the 2020 election. The photo showed about two Asian journalists and the rest, white. I commented that there wasn’t even much difference among the other journalist when someone mentioned that there were about 2 or 3 people from the Latinx community on the list. I then said their names may be Latinx and that may be their identity but that’s not their race and if their names weren’t on the list, no one would be able to tell that those journalist were Latinx. This sparked a whole debate about Latinx people facing discrimination from Caucasians, etc. I then mentioned that may be the case for the non white Latinx people but not for the white ones. Why? Because being Latinx is not a race just like being Mexican isn’t. Being Latinx is related to culture and ethnicity and THAT has no colour. But when you have everyone else being called Latinx, while darker skinned Latinx people have “Afro” before Latino/Latina, no wonder people think it’s a race.

Throughout the season so far, Kary points out every single time that she’s from Mexico. LeeAnne saying “chirpy Mexican” means that Kary talks too much. No! It doesn’t have the same meaning as someone using the N word. Do you want to know why? Because if it did, then Bravo wouldn’t have had it subtitled, written all out. It would’ve been censored. When LeeAnne went on to say “I thought you were all Mexican and strong” that gave the same energy as saying to someone who always says they’re from the Bronx or Compton to “knuck if you buck”. In other words, “get at me and show me why being from Mexico, the Bronx or Compton makes you this badass“.

The women and the fandom that are up in arms about whether or not what LeeAnne said was racist is ridiculous. The producers asking Brandi that question and her pausing that long before she answered is so disgusting. Why? If this cast of white women want to bring up racism, they better be able to say with their chest held high, where their political affiliations lie because at this point, it matters. That’s where we are headed and I’m sure they do not want to enter into that territory.

I’m just completely thrown that this is where they chose to go with the season. I mean, we’ve had LuAnn darken her skin to be Diana Ross for Halloween, we’ve had Heather (I like her) a few seasons back, when she was talking to Ramona, gesture smoking weed in relation to Jamaica (a nation of majority black people), we’ve had Brandi say to Joyce that of course she can’t swim cuz she’s black and people defended them or totally ignored the comments or actions. Heck, Joe Giudice called Danielle’s friend a f#%#%# in season two of The Real Housewives of New Jersey and he apologised. That was a slur, chirpy Mexican isn’t. Stassi, a privileged white girl who has had many things handed to her for being obnoxious on Vanderpump Rules, boldly declared on her podcast that Black people in Hollywood complained too much about representation. What did everyone do? The fans, the all white cast and Andy jumped to her defense on the show and the reunion, instead of pointing out to her that what she said had racist undertones. So, was LeeAnne being a complete a**hole for dissing Kary that she talks too much? YES. But was it a racist comment? NO!

The Real Housewives of Dallas airs Wednesdays at 9pm on Bravo.


Saddle Up, Dallas Is Back

Hello my readers! It’s been over a month since my last entry, where I shared my thoughts on Lisa Vanderpump and The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. A new month has arrived and with that another series has started. I’ve decided to start blogging on The Real Housewives of Dallas (RHOD) for the first time. Here we go!

Season 4 Episode 1 – Of Friends and Frenemies

As with every season premiere, we got caught up with the cast since we last saw them on the season 3 reunion. The episode was heavily advertised with a Friendtervention for LeeAnne and D’Andra at Stephanie’s home. Before we get into that, here’s what you missed.

Rich had popped the big question to LeeAnne two seasons ago and all of last season the women kept going at her about her wedding plans. By women, I mean Brandi and D’Andra. We learnt that the wedding will be 7 weeks from when they filmed that scene, so in reality tv time and judging by the fact that they went on their cast trip after the wedding, I’ll say at about episode 10 is when we’ll see the wedding. LeeAnne let us know that after the reunion she hadn’t heard from D’Andra after she promised to reach out to her so they could both go to friend counselling (this they had agreed to at the reunion). I’m not too surprised by this.

Speaking of D’Andra, we got 5 scenes in total (flashback included) with her. Of the 5 scenes, only one had nothing to do with the same storyline she’s had since season 2, her skin care company. Firstly, while speaking with her husband (Jeremy) she expressed that after her mother signed over the company to her, she found out that it has approximately 3 months to remain open if they don’t start turning a profit. Basically, she intimated that Momma Dee (Dee) signed over a failing company to her. I truly don’t know what to make of it because D’Andra admitted that she knew they lost money when they stopped advertising on Christian networks but never said why they stopped in the first place. It also doesn’t really make sense to me that D’Andra wouldn’t have known about the company’s financial situation before it was signed over to her because she worked closely with her mom and from what we saw, she would know the ins and outs of the company. She was basically her mother’s right hand, so how could she not have known? Unless, she wasn’t as involved and devoted to the company as she claims. Idk! It just doesn’t add up.

She then confirmed what LeeAnne said by stating they hadn’t spoken since the reunion. D’Andra commented that she thought the idea of friends’ counselling was silly. I bet now that the cameras started rolling, she wouldn’t have objected. I said this because it was revealed on the reunion last season that D’Andra does some stuff, simply because the cameras are there but complains behind the women’s backs about supporting them. She alluded to the fact Rich sent her husband some horrible texts which also caused her to stall reaching out.

We got a little more insight into her family situation when she went to her adopted father’s gravestone with her mom. This is the man who raised her after her biological father committed suicide. She engaged Dee in conversation and told her that she spoke with the accountants and relayed the same information she shared with Jeremy. I’m still trying to understand exactly what Dee’s response meant but said that she doesn’t need much from the company, she just needs to be getting a cheque. D’Andra choked up because she had to take a pay cut and felt lost. They talked about what her dad would want her to do. D’Andra then raised the question of getting access to her trust to help the business and her Dee told her she needs to figure the mess out because won’t get the trust yet. It’s beyond me that D’Andra seems so overwhelmed when all she did was legally take over the company. Like I said, she’s let us believe she worked right along her mother’s side, so a simple legal document couldn’t have caused this much change. At least, I don’t think so.

A Little Bit of Steph and Brandi

Brandi caught us up on her home life and we got to see her son, Bruin, walk. He’s really grown and looks happy. Then again, he’s just a year old. He can’t not be happy. LOL. Her girls are also growing and Brooklyn, the older of the two girls, isn’t the least bit shy and a mini Brandi in the making. She seems like a fun little kid but I could hardly pay attention to Brandi’s scene as both girls kept screaming over of each other. Complete mayhem! I wouldn’t want to be the producer or the 3 camera men in that scene. This gave me flashbacks of Teresa’s kids on The Real Housewives of New Jersey when they were around that age. Yikes! No mention of Bryan

Stephanie tells us Travis went back to Harvard for more academic experience in the business field. After they finished playing around on the hover boards, she suggested he has a chat with D’Andra since she just took over the company and needs some help. Steph being the kindhearted person she is, wants LeeAnne and D’Andra to get together and squash their beef or at least come to some type of understanding. Travis seemed to think that was a good idea, considering the two had been friends for such a long time and even encouraged Stephanie to invite them to their house. We know Bryan would’ve never said this about LeeAnne. Haha! I love me some LeeAnne but Stephanie has never done wrong in my eyes. The true peacekeeper. The UN could learn a thing or two from her. Haha!

Fun Of Missing Out – FOMO


Why am I laughing? Well, Stephanie gave Kameron a ring to invite her to the friendtervention. Kam had to decline because she was preparing for Spring Break with her family and would be leaving on the day the friendtervention was to be held. In her interview, she exclaimed she had no FOMO about missing the sit down. She went on, “and if you wanna know what FOMO is (to the producers) it’s Fun Of Missing Out”. LoLoLoLoLoLoLoLoL The producers had to tell her that’s not what it stood for. Only Kam! This is why I love her. She’s unintentionally funny and brings a real lightheaded quirk to the show.

Kary for Cary

I’ve been saying since last season that Cary Deuber (former full time cast member) needed to have a reduced role if any at all. I like her but she wasn’t doing much and the show could’ve gone on without her. I guess I was right and Bravo traded Kary for Cary.

Kary is the newest cast member and we were introduced to her through D’Andra. This is the 4th scene with D’Andra. I feel like she’s being set up for some type of redemption since she came off looking really badly last season. We’ll see. Kary also knows Cary and she tells D’Andra that she had a problem with what LeeAnne did to Cary and Mark seasons ago. She’s already annoying me because she’s coming in to take on a storyline that’s over 2 years old, especially when all the parties involved have moved on and are friends. If this is what she’s going to be bringing for the rest of the season, she better get ready for the feedback cuz none of that past stuff is her business.


Steph welcomed Brandi as she was the first arrive. They chat for a moment in no time, the subjects of the matter (LeeAnne and D’Andra) showed up. I really wanted Kam to be at this sit down because it seems like everyone for that she and D’Andra also didn’t leave the season 3 reunion on a good note. Remember #ATTgate? They sat down to talk. LeeAnne opened the floor by stating that when D’Andra accused Rich of cheating on her, she crossed a line. D’Andra (her 5the scene, the most out of anyone in the premiere) brought up the texts Rich sent both her and Jeremy that he was cheating on her (D’Andra) as some counter to LeeAnne’s issue. She added she didn’t start any rumour and that she was asking LeeAnne as a friend. I’m happy the flashbacks showed that’s not at all what did. It’s important to note that D’Andra brought this cheating rumour about her husband on the season and not LeeAnne.

They went back and forth for a little while longer and agreed that they would move on. Moving on for them meant they wouldn’t bring up anything about the other to anyone but themselves. All the hype and big talk throughout the episode with this soft interaction from two former besties who hasn’t seen each other in 3 months, fell flat.

And here lies my issue with RHOD. The show is okay but it isn’t great. How is it that the whole episode was a build up to this friendtervention yet it was like they were at some book club and having a minor disagreement about characters or plot? I’m not saying they needed to go crazy like the women in Jersey and not every interaction needs to be heated but cmon…this is usually how most of their conversations go, except when LeeAnne turns up.

The cast is likeable and there doesn’t need to be down in the gutter drama but they’re on season 4 and are still playing it safe. It was a good premiere and I see many fans complaining via Twitter that they don’t know why RHOD doesn’t have high ratings and that it’s the “best”, it’s “better” than The Real Housewives of Potomac (RHOP), etc. BUT the cast is missing a true socialite. RHOD started off with charities and is trying to find a proper footing. They’re almost there but they need someone who really puts their money where their mouth is.

The Real Housewives of Dallas airs Wednesdays at 9pm on Bravo.